One of the most frequent statements I hear from people is,” I feel like a burden?
Your world has been turned upside down. You’re in a totally different world now, an unknown world, a world that you didn’t ask to be in and have no idea what’s going on. This world doesn’t come with a rule book for anyone. This world you’ve been thrown into is something that you’ve never experienced before. It’s totally numbing and overwhelming at the same time. It’s understandable that you’re totally incapable of navigating through it on your own. This world is called grief.
Grief is unfamiliar, it’s devastating, it’s horrible, shocking, unbearable and many other feelings, sometimes experiencing them all at once. For me it felt like someone dug my heart out with a shovel, got an axe and hacked every bit of it into tiny pieces, gathered it up with a front loader and mashed it back into the gaping hole it came from. I wonder how you’d describe your early grief? If one of your friends described it that way, would you feel they were a burden?
How grief impacts you
Grief affects your body, mind and spirit, it
changes you forever and you have the challenge to live your life in a different way.
- Changes in weight, up or down
- Sleep, too much or too little
- Stomach pains
- Body aches
- Changes in memory
- Lack of concentration
- Lack of focus
- No motivation to connect with self
- No motivation to connect with others
- Relationships change
- Vivid dreams about your loved one
- Searching for meaning
- Examining your spiritual beliefs
All of these things are happening to you through your grief, it’s tough to navigate. It’s time to unravel your grief and rediscover joy. It’s a long process. Be kind to yourself, know that this will take time because your life has changed forever.
It will be extremely challenging. Feel your feelings and gather the people around you who will be present with you. You’ll learn to live alongside your grief.
How’s grief impacting you?