Recently I’ve been thinking about all you beautiful humans out there who have had their lives turned upside down by grief and are suffering right now.
I know there’s many people out there who have had loved ones die, or have suffered a life altering illness and are spending your energy on trying to get through your day.
Here’s a recipe especially for you to try, if you have the energy.
Here’s the Self-Care recipe in a nutshell
An ounce of air
a heaped spoon of creativity
a grin e of kindness
a sprig or two of support
a dollop of self-love
An ounce of air
Here’s how to get an ounce of air.
Getting out of bed is often really difficult right now, here’s a little tip to help you do what you can do. Have a go at throwing back those blankets, bending your legs and using your arms to push your body up ready to hop out of bed. Well not so much hop out of bed but easing yourself out of bed into the upright position. Stand alongside your bed for a few seconds and take a couple of breaths. Feel the air flowing in through your nose, down into your lungs and back out again.
Next, make yourself a cup of tea, coffee, or warm lemon water and sit outside in the fresh air. Notice everything around you, take it all in while drinking your soothing cuppa.
Take a heaped spoonful of creativity
You don’t have to be an artist to be creative, you just have to be YOU creating whatever you need. This might be writing a thank you letter to someone who has helped you through your grief; you could write a poem or a song about how you’re feeling, write in your journal about your achievements; pick flowers and dry them to make cards; paint; draw, colour in etc.
There are so many creative things to do, it’s only limited by your imagination.
Being creative ignites the parts of your imagination and self-expression. Getting lost in creating helps you think out of the box and helps clarify things.
You are creative. If you don’t think you are, think back to when you were a child or watch a child working from their imagination to help you get started.
Here’s some creative expression from our 3 year old granddaughter. She thought mummy’s wall was boring and her kitten needed some colour. She colours our world.
Next add a sprinkle of kindness
This is where you be kind to yourself, take care of you and have self-compassion.
Grief impacts you in ways you’d never imagined. It affects your body, mind, spirit, relationships and it’s exhausting.
Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you neglect your responsibilities. It’s probably because you’re putting your responsibilities first that you’re neglecting you.
We live in a fast-paced and demanding world and being kind to yourself takes a backseat.
It’s okay to say “No” to people. I know it’s challenging but learning to say” No” will give you the energy and the time for you.
Heaps of self-compassion is needed, also known as being kind to yourself. I often hear people say that someone else has it worse than them. Don’t compare yourself to others situation, this is your grief not anyone else’s.
A sprig or two of support
Drop in a sprig or two of support by this I mean, have the people around you that are willing to sit with you no matter what you’re feeling. Have friends around you who you can say how you’re feeling and they don’t try to cheer you up.
We need human connection, it’s vital for your well-being. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. People who will hear you saying “No” as, you don’t have the energy to be with someone today and not take it personally.
A dollop of self-love
Now it’s time to add the self-love. Know that you are an awesome human being and that it’s wonderful that you have come this far. You’re annoying because you’re taking one step at a time and learning to live your life alongside grief.
You’re a fabulous human being living in two worlds at the moment: one is grief and trying to make sense of what’s happened and how you’re going to get through life without your loved one. The other world is the world that everyone else lives in and you have to learn to journey through again.
Finally, mix all these ingredients well and consume them often.
Print this recipe out to remind yourself to take care of You. You can even decide to make one ingredient a day to work up to the full recipe.
I hope this helps? Let me know if you’re making the whole recipe or taking it one step at a time.
Comment below and let me know what you’re doing.