Easter is celebrated all over the world by chocolate eggs and bunnies. For Christians the focus is on the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ and living in peace and love.
For many people it’s all about family, Easter egg hunts, attending church and having fun but not this year. This year someone is missing and you don’t feel like joining in celebrations.
The reality is that what you are feeling right now is your “new normal”. You possibly haven’t had someone die before so, like everything that is new, it’s important to learn how to grieve in your own, unique way this Easter.
Make sure you take time out for your self-care. Before Easter think about how your day might go, do you have any anxieties? Do you want to keep the day the same? Do you want to change traditions and do something different? Or do you want to skip it all together and see how you feel next year? It’s totally up to you and you can change your mind at any time during the day, nothing is set in stone.
- Self-care could be writing in your journal about how you’re coping or what you want to happen on Easter Sunday
- Walking, walking the dog
- Having coffee with a friend
- Being by yourself and listen to music
- Give yourself permission to cry
- Creating art; painting; drawing; journalling; playing with clay; colouring
- Going to a park and sitting in nature
What you can do if you have children
You might not feel like getting out of bed but you have children who want to celebrate Easter, the way they always have.
Children are often the forgotten grievers, people think that they don’t understand or they’re so resilient, they feel grief too, remember to include them in your decisions.
They might feel overwhelmed by their emotions because Easter is such a fun day filled with chocolate and friends, however they’re also feeling sad. Give them a “safe word” to use if they’re uncomfortable or can’t cope with the celebrations. Take them out of the situation and let them know that it’s natural to be feeling like they are and that their missing their loved one, let them cry or feel sad. Just be with them to give them support during this vulnerable time and it’s okay to cry with them. You’re showing them that it’s natural to grieve.
Planning For Easter Sunday
Talk to your partner, family member or friend about doing Easter the way you want.
Brainstorm and write out a plan for the day.
Here are some suggestions
- Part of the day could be spent sharing memories of your loved one
- Visiting their last resting place, either on your own or with your family
- Lighting candles in their memory
- Choosing songs that remind you of your loved one
Memories can be shared by:
- Sitting around the table and telling stories
- Flipping through scrapbooks/photos
- Writing poetry
- Drawing pictures and sharing their meaning
- Showing movies of them
- Making things for them
- Writing letters to them
Sharing these memories help loved to keep their memory alive.
Make It Easy On Yourself
Do whatever feels right for you. Your children might have some ideas too (they usually do).
My wish is that you make Easter memorable for you and your family.
Do it your way.